Rings around the moon.

Intrusion type one. Things don't add up. Things don't feel right. Antidote (to unconsciousness): Perls "Say what you see" don't use any ideas or theory. Antidote to personal discomfort: Use Gendlin (Focusing ) Antidote to straying silent: Use Rosenberg (NVC): I see, I feel, I need, this is what I want to change, add liberal doses of empathy, stay firm, stay strong, remember we only live once, be kind.. Reason for not acting type 1 - denial: The mind creates reasons for what has been experienced and a lot of these reasons state that doing anything will make it (will make everything!) worse.  This will feel absolutely true and can be true. Reason for not acting type 2 - gaslighting: The person who knows why things don't feel right will lie, will go along with anything you say that sounds plausible as long as it isn't correct, and eventually you will find yourself driving all blames into one cause. Your self. At this point the gaslighter continues to ...

Brain fog.. I'm dubious about stages of anything. A map helps... Something that shows Other people have been here. They may have got out Or Remained lost. Probably. The hard part is My heart gets broken over and over. Last night as I sat by his bed I wrote: I can't take this.  The feeling that we are not doing any good. Isn't as important as the probability that we are not doing any good. How to get this to spin the right way? I don't know... A feeling of utter despair - waves of pain. I have no idea how long he will be in hospital. I don't think I'm able to cope with the waves of anger he gives off... His pathway so far has been a mirror image of his aunts - even down to the RTA - she walked in front of a car. His aunt can act sane... But she doesn't feel. There is no empathy. No care for self or other. When asked if he would have her back, father-in-law saw his little girl, and said yes. Then left her to wand...

I've spent most of today writing this blog. It has been my therapy. I make no apologies for my negative turn of mind. I'm stressed. I'm not happy. But I can do better. Yesterday and today I gave up, yesterday in particular after seeing the rage. I was frightened. But, now I'm not. Or rather I'm now aware that it is there, the discomfort I was feeling is validated, so I can accept my heightened sense of anxiety - it makes sense. Feeling what I'm feeling Think of Gendlin and his Focus technique... Congruence isn't about peace and happiness, it is about authenticity. OK, so I let yesterday and today just go.... Now I need to formulate a logical plan. Firstly what do I think of Person-centered, Humanistic approaches. Is it the right thing to validate someone's experience so that they will feel their own inconsistency and inevitably wake up? Rogers was clear in his own mind that the six necessary conditions were all that is needed.....